Shades Of Psych

As a recovering people pleaser know how hard it can be to tackle people pleasing tendencies.

People pleasing often occurs when’ve learnt to associate being agreeable and saying yes with feeling of love, safety and belonging. It essentially becomes our default trait because we constantly crave safety.

Instead of fight or flight our body may fawn, and try to appease instead.

As a recovering people pleaser know how hard it can be to tackle people pleasing tendencies

To overcome this it takes work:
• Pausing before giving a response – allows you to have the space to decide is this something you actually want to do?
• Setting soft boundaries – boundary setting is usually hard for people pleaser so soft boundary setting helps keep you a priority.
• Self Affirming statements – remind yourself that saying no doesn’t make you unloveable or unsafe.

It’s important to remind yourself amongst pleasing other people, you are still a person who deserves to be pleased!

Disclaimer: Please note this post is for educational purposes. This post is not a substitute for therapy. Content from this page should only be used under the guidance from your own therapist who can help you apply what is best for your needs.*